ekta asked, hi i am 29 year old married woman,one of my husbands uncles daughter in laws married young sister lives in our city.we just posted there last year,in the meantime tht sisters husbands passed away,as due to our relationship my husbands start helping him in every way,as firstly i don,t find it wrong ,but slowly slowly my husbands start giving more time to him.just take more interest in her and his small baby,now once i just ask him that what going on than he says tht he develop a relationship wht that woman.than i have meeting with her in laws ,her in laws oferd tht she should marry her husband younger brother she trurn it down,thn i talk to my uncles daughter in law ,asking him to warn his sister,even her parents fail.but to pressure my husbands come back to me,that woman is not ready to leave my husband,he just came to our home start fighting with me.now my husband also feeling ashamed,as we lost respect in our society.i don,t know which way we can handle tht woman.wating for yr kind solutin.thanks

Love Guru answers, Your husband is as much to blame here as she is, if not more so. He's the one who cheated on you. Look, in such a situation, if I were you, I would not be able to accept my husband's misdeed and I would walk out on him for sure. I would think I deserved better than a cheat who slept with a distant relative and then had the gall to come home and fight with me after what he did -- no questions asked. But it looks like you want to keep your marriage intact at all costs. Your husband should feel ashamed, but more importantly has he called off the affair with her? If he has, you can maybe think of forgiving him -- after a few months. If you pretend like everything is fine, he will do it again -- mark my words. If you let yourself be taken for granted with no repercussions for him, he will do it again. There will be no fear of you walking out on him. Tell him to give you your space and shut him out of your life for a few months, even if you're living together. Let him grovel to get back in your good graces.

dipmyheart asked, Hi LG...Good Day I am into a relationship with a girl of same age for around 5 years. Initially there were resistance from my parents, but slowly they have accepted this relationship. As expected now things are turning towards Marriage. Talks between the families are on & they are planning for early 2010. But the problem is with me ..when things started settling, I observed that my interest in this relationship has gone. I cannot accept her as My wife there are few reasons behind like our compatibility, expectation mismatch etc. Off late I found a lady friend of mine who has shown interest on me & I found her suitable as a life partner. But if I live my GF, it will be injustice to her as she has been displayed unconditional love for me so far. What should I do should I adjust myself to this arrangement & try to console me...or else go by my heart??/ Plz suggest

Love Guru answers, Look, it's not uncommon to suffer cold feet once your marriage is fixed up. If you were compatible for 5 years, what suddenly changed? You're thinking overtime. And if you think that this new friend of yours is a suitable life partner, think again -- it's just the new thrill and attraction of a new relationship that is making you feel like that. Rest assured, it will also fade like in your present relationship in a few years. To keep things interesting, you have to make an effort to do so -- that is what a lifelong partnership is all about. I think your girlfriend is the right choice and your commitmentphobe attitude is what is ruining things. Don't let it.

chandan asked, my girlfriend will got married to another person.What will i do in this situation.

Love Guru answers, She made the choice, now you make yours -- to move on and find someone else who will want to marry you.

RAM asked, HaiL G, I am 28yrs old guy , unexpectedly relation with women,she proposed to do love,am not interested to build relation with her,bcoz she got married and then recently she didnt speak with me, am also not proposed to talk, but i feel only she want expressed of love my side, what i can do plz suggest me soon.

Love Guru answers, I'm not exactly sure that I follow you here, but there doesn't seem to be a problem? You don't want a relationship, she is married and not talking to you. It may have been fun while it lasted, but why pursue things and make them complicated? Leave good enough alone and stop hooking up with married women.

Rishabh asked, Hi , I am 27 years old guy...and i love a girl who is Telegu Brahmin and she also loves me...However her parents are not accepting us as i am not telugu and a gujrati. Her mom holds upper hand in the house and is strictly against it and warned her that she will commit suicide if she goes against her..So now she will no way go against her family and we are stuck for 1 year now..my parents have accepted her..I am very confused wat to do ,,,as her mom is planning her to get married by August to a very Rich guy..Us settled..I am also earning about 35000/month but her mom is not listening

Love Guru answers, If her mother is threatening suicide it amounts to emotional blackmail. If you both want to be together in spite of everything, you will have to defy her parents and go ahead with your marriage. Beforehand, you can also visit the police and complain that her mother is threatening suicide over you both getting together if you think she's serious about it. If you're both consenting adults who want to be with each other, nobody can stop you legally.

tom asked, Guru im married to a girl whom i dnt love nor i think i will be able to love her in the near future.i always wanted a smart and attractive wife with brains but she doesn't have any of this.i just dnt feel like talking to her much.but she likes me a lot. ow shud i change myself as trust me it's very difficult as i dnt find her atractive.

Love Guru answers, Why did you agree to the marriage if you didn't find her at all appealing? Parental pressure, I suppose. Your parents foolishly forced you, you foolishly gave in and in the bargain the poor girl's life is ruined. If you don't find her attractive, there are ways to remedy that, with beauty treatments and workouts. As for the intelligence part of it, you can always introduce her to new things and books, help her become knowledgeable so that you can hold conversations with her. You owe this girl at least enough to give the marriage a decent try. So do it. And talk to her -- if you open up avenues of discussion, you'll be able to connect with her better.