anjum asked, hi sir /Madam, Madam, mera prbolem hai ke meri ek choti behan hai jis ki ummar 18 sall hai aur us ko ek 38 years man se pyar hugaya hai hum saab gharwala ne mil kar us ko samjaya tu us ko realize hua ke yeh galad hai tu usne us se baat karana chod diya lakin aap wo us ka saat zabardasti karta hai us raaste main haat pakd kar khichta hai, use phone kar ke perashan karta hai, hum log ne police main complain ki hai. lakin police wala co-operate nahi karta bolta yeh love ka matter hai is main hum aap ki koi madad nahi kar sakte.please meri problem ha haal batayi main aap ka jawab ka intazar kar rahi hu please

Love Guru answers, Woh zabardasti kar raha hain to police ko complaint likhvani hi padegi. Aapki behen ko complaint register karna padega ki ye aadmi mujhe pareshaan kar raha hai aur mein uske saath koi rishta nahin rakhna chahti. Police ne phir bhi complaint likhne se inkaar kar diya to bolna ki newspaper mein aap ke naam chhapva denge ki aapne hamari madad nahin ki.

annu asked, Iam 39 year old man, i live in Haridwar on rent. my landlord`s wife sit daily in my room for latenight. her husband has own business, so he come very late in the night. His wife do gupshup daily. inbetbeen i am attracted to her. Now I love her, but i do`nt know that what is in her heart. please guide me.

Love Guru answers, Look, you have a lot to lose here. Not only may the wife get upset with you, but you may lose your home if your landlord finds out and decides to kick you out. Don't pursue married women. She has not shown any indication that she likes you -- till such time as she does that, to show that you like her is too much of a risk.

anita asked, hi love guru, i met this guy at college who seemed to grow fond of me very quickly (i found it annoying since it was too early) & i began avoiding him & maybe hurt him too. but now with time i think i've started to gorw fond of him...but now he seems distant(friendly but- cautious)...what should i do?

Love Guru answers, Anita, this problem can be set straight with a single frank conversation. Tell him that you'd like to be his friend, but that his over-familiar attitude too early on was a big turn-off. And that he should take things slowly.

Hopeful asked, I have a problem. First thing is I have a friend of mine and he is 21 yrs old. and I am a 28 yr old girl. We have been best friends for over 5 years now and we have become really very close friends since last year. It just happend. Now we like each other. Both of us are not married and we don't have any sexual relationship between each other. Just living our normal life. The thing is we are so close friends that often he and I think that wish we were of the same age. Also now we love hugging each other wen alone. Since we like each other so much, i just wanted to know is does the age gap really matter? Also if we like each other and want to get married down the line, how to convince our parents? Coz i am very tensed. Also my family wants me to get married now but i don't feel like watching other guys naturally. Please advice somethng. Actually its really difficult to live without each other. Please let me know your advice.

Love Guru answers, Hi there. Well, 7 years isn't too large an age gap, but the thing is, your boyfriend seems a little too young to settle down right away. He's only 21. And just because you're 28, to get settled in a hurry would be unfair to him and backfire on both of you. Now, if you really want to be together you both will just have to face the music from your families. Put your foot down about things and let them play out. If your parents resist at first it's natural, but if they have any common sense they'll come around to it eventually.

rocobaroco asked, why is that most of the boys are fine with a just-sex relationship with a gal, but most of the gals wont accept anything less than marriage one they get physical with a guy ? do u think gals (in general) are hyppocratic on sexual matters or is it that man r dogs ?

Love Guru answers, It's neither. What you're making is a generalisation, but that doesn't make it necessarily true. How many guys do you know who have been in only-sex relationships without a shred of attachment to the woman? Or, for that matter, how many girls who ended up marrying the guy they first slept with? When it comes down to reality, things are a little different.

Sony asked, I been dating this guy for almost 1-1/2 yr. We love eacthother at lot. Am reaching my 28 and want to get married. He knows it well but he is not taking this matter seriously. He sayz we will marry by next year, which am not sure of. He lives in different city now. I know he loves me, but somewhere i feel he should think about settling in life. We both earn well. Tell me what should i do, wait wait wait for his go ahead? Also i happend to meet one guy who is really amazing, just my kind. He is also interested on me But i dint want to go further as i think am doing wrong. Being in same city i get urge of meeting up this guy, i love his company. What to do?

Love Guru answers, Sony, if your boyfriend is saying he'll marry you next year, why aren't you taking him seriously? Do you have reason to believe that he doesn't intend to? Tell your boyfriend that the long-distance relationship is hard on you and you'd like a proper commitment. Also explain to him that he should be honest with you, because if both of you want different things in life, you need to rethink the relationship. Don't mention anything about the other boy to pressure him into a decision, though. It's a commitment he should be willing to make to you without any kind of pressure.