Love Guru answers, It's a solution you have to give yourself, Chitra -- this relationship won't work out in the long run. He doesn't want to settle down with you probably because he's too young -- you said he's 5 years younger, right? But if he's flat out saying that he'll NEVER marry you, what are you doing with him in the first place? Dump him -- now!

ajith asked, HI LG,me and my GF were in love for past 3 months. she is having some family problems.last week one day she messaged me saying she cant continue in the relationship as her parents wont agree and broke with me. Im christian and she is hindu.after that she is avoiding me alot, not talking to me, not allowing to see her etc. she is not at all listening to me. she is very stuborn. buti cant loose her. is ther any way i can get her?is family issues the real problem or she really dumped me? because she is spending a lot of time with her friends and seems to be trying her level best to forget me.but how can she do that all o sudden?any chance i an win her back? pls help.

Love Guru answers, Okay. Here's the thing -- you cannot force someone to carry on with you, regardless of whether she loves you or not. Ultimately, the decision is hers. But you can demand a proper explanation for the break-up from her. Tell her you'd like to hear the truth, not a cooked-up excuse. In any case, if she's made up her mind to move on, you should too.

cid1 asked, Deepika and me study in same college and we I proposed her just last month. Now we started sharing good moment of life. My friend Tarun invited us for his brother's marriage. There I met with two of my best friend Amit and Rakesh. During the party Subra revealed in front of public that Amit is a gay and he likes Rakesh. 2 years back she had affair with Rakesh. This stunned everybody. Subra is friend of Rashmi, my bhabhi's sister. She gossiped something about us to Dipika and now Dipika thinks that I am also a gay. She is not at all ready to talk to me. Please advice me what to do. I feel we are made for each other.

Love Guru answers, Deepika sounds pretty childish to me, to believe a stranger's word over yours. Why not tell Amit to explain to her that you're not gay? Tell her that she should trust her boyfriend enough to know when he's speaking the truth. And that Subra's is just a case of sour grapes, because of her ex.

surya asked, iam 37 old man. my problem is that whenever my wife goes outstation (say , to her moms place for vacation) i tend to watch a lot of porn till midnights and mastubate. i feel really very sick, tired, and guilty. how can i leave this habbit? am i normal?

Love Guru answers, It's normal to watch porn -- most men do. You probably feel sick or tired because you're upset about it or you're overdoing it. You are normal. Stop feeling so guilty.

Kali asked, i have seen a girl in train while travelling in a long journey and fall in love. I have given my contact details to her. After more than a week, I have not received any call from here. May I treat that she doesn't like me? Unfortunately I don't have her contact number. Shall I wait ?. I have already given my contact details to her father who came to station to drop her. Please suggest what to do.

Love Guru answers, Well, there isn't much you can do, since you have no way of contacting her! But don't wait day and night for the phone to ring, because if you do it never will -- that's life! Go about life as usual and if she's interested, she will call eventually.

Brian asked, Hi Love guru, I was in love with one girl who is 22 and I am 32,she is very moody by temperament, and due to her moody behaviour we would quite often end up in a fight. She told me that she talks to a lot of boys as against me who was only talking to her. I noticed that she had a habit of flirting with a lot of boys which I did not like so I confronted her, this ended up in a very big fight and I insulted her and said a lot of disgusting things in a fit of anger, I soon realised I should not have said nasty things so I apologized but she broke up with me..I went into severe depression and I kept saying sorry for more than 8 months she finally said sorry too but she said she will never be mine again...What should I do Please help

Love Guru answers, Hey, Brian, I don't think you should continue obsessing over this. Possessiveness ruins relationships, as you've found out. But more than that, there's too much of an age gap at the moment -- she's only 22 and has hardly seen life. You're 32 and ready to settle. If she was 25-26 and you were 35, there wouldn't be so much trouble. Also, she's made it clear that she doesn't want to be with you, so you should just move on. You can give it one final try with a promise to change your possessive ways, but I doubt it will change her mind.

Love Guru says, Time to go, folks -- mail me at mailtheloveguru@rediffmail.com and tune in for the chat next Thursday! Till then, take care and all the best!