'I'm dating her sister, she's threatening suicide'

Love Guru says, Hey, everyone...welcome back to the Love Guru chat. Any relationship problem you're experiencing, feel free to share it and we'll work towards a solution.

sdfsasd asked, HI LG. I loved one girl near by my home. I proposed her she accepted. both are going to movies & parks. Fews day back I got proposal from her sister. I was shocked. I rejected her. After that she is saying she wants to die for my me. One day she was opened Gas cylinder. I was stopped her. What will do?

Love Guru answers, You have to tell your girlfriend what her sister is up to. If she doesn't believe you, call her sister on the telephone and let her listen in on the conversation. Don't try to deal with this problem yourself, it will only create a mess. Her family has to know and get her the help she needs.

AT asked, I am married for 5 years but since last year my wife is not keen to have sex with me.I am attracted my boss's daughter in office and she wants to have sex with me.I want to have sex with her.How can I satisfy my sexual desire

Love Guru answers, It's one thing that you want to cheat on your wife instead of working for a solution to your dull sex life. But forget just any colleague, this is your boss' daughter we're talking about. What are you thinking? Do you realise you're likely to lose your job if anything goes wrong with her? Don't be a fool. And even if it was someone else, it's a problem you should be working on with your wife, not jumping into bed with the next woman you meet.

tapu asked, i am n lust with a girl.nw i lkove her?do you think that lust can b changed in true love?

Love Guru answers, Lust doesn't 'change' into true love. If you like the girl as a person and see yourself in a longterm relationship with her in future, pursue things, else drop the idea. You'll get used to the sex eventually and then there will be nothing exciting or interesting to keep you in the relationship.

nischal asked, i am in love with someone but she is confised so tell what to do

Love Guru answers, Not much you can do. This is something she has to figure out herself. Don't put too much pressure on her, just tell her you're awaiting her response and point out what she stands to gain if she dates you -- a caring boyfriend who really loves her.

catwalk asked, Hi love guru, I am boy. I chat with a girl online, she is my sister friend. I dont love her but i freely chat sex with her only. Not with any other even boys. Whether i am in love with her?

Love Guru answers, Chatting online is one thing and dating in person quite another. You're probably attracted to her, but one doesn't fall in love solely by interacting online. Instead of only talking about sex, which is just one aspect of a relationship, why not ask her out?

Dhruman asked, hi i m married frm last 7mnths & its a love marriage but my wife is not able to keep my family Happy....bcz she doesnt do much house hold work & if i make her understand to do then v get in a big fight bcz she doesnt like if i pin point her for any work she doesn like if i talk to my female friends she doesnt gel with my friends also,,,pls tell me wat shld i do

Love Guru answers, You probably live in a conventional set-up where women are expected to do household work while men sit around doing nothing and maybe your wife doesn't appreciate that. The times are changing, my friend -- you need to get that. Did she know all this was expected of her before she married you? How come you don't do any housework when you have the time for it? Because you're a man? Maybe you should set an example and then she'll be more willing to pitch in. About the possessiveness, you can talk to her about that and explain that you have female friends whom she should accept, just as she should accept your other pals.

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Love Guru answers, I think if you're mature enough to understand that this behaviour is unpleasant, that's half the battle won. You need to consciously make the effort to forgive and forget -- the moment you find yourself sulking, as much as you dislike it, call the person you've been fighting with and sort out the matter then and there.

sameer asked, Hi LG,i m sameer 28 yrs old n i luv a woman whos elder 2 me,i dunno how old is she?still she says that she is not mocg elder 2 me but she insists she luvs me alooot.i luv her 2 for all her good qualities,wat shud i do?

Love Guru answers, If she's a little older that's not a big deal at all. I've said this before, I know a lot of couples where the woman is slightly older and they're perfectly happy. An age-gap of upto 4-5 years is not even worth mentioning.

rue asked, after we fall in love, the guys get physical with me.they leave me and go. why is it so? any mistake with me

Love Guru answers, Yes, it is a mistake with you -- you're falling for the wrong kind of guys. Stop getting sweet-talked into things by every man who comes along and flatters you. You need to make it clear that you are looking for a commitment, else you want nothing to do with anyone beyond friendship.

joydeep asked, I love my wife but I had sexual relation with another women is it ok

Love Guru answers, No it's not. You can't change the past, but you can change the future -- remain faithful from now on.

sumanta asked, i love one who is my very good frnd. i tell her about my feelings, but she jst smilling, no more reply frm her side. so how could i know that she loves me or not...? plz reply

Love Guru answers, Well, a smile is a positive sign, at any rate. Tell her you're still waiting for her answer.

dj asked, hi LG is it ok to be friends with the girl whom i loved and now she is married i really want to be in contact with her....

Love Guru answers, If you want to be just friends, there's no harm in that, except that you'll be damaging your own chances of meeting someone else. Don't keep doting on someone you can't have, else someone else you could have may pass you by.

manu asked, Hi LG, i have an affair with a married man last 9 yrs ,who is 8 yrs younger than me having his family.my husband died in 2000 and after his death he came into my life.i had tried my best but failed to leave him.what i should do?

Love Guru answers, If you've failed to leave him it just means you haven't tried hard enough. Don't you want to get married again? You've already lost a decade to this guy and if he was serious about a future with you he'd have left his wife by now. He hasn't. He's enjoying having his cake and eating it too and you're letting him. So the choice is yours -- either keep letting him, only to be left alone in your old age, or end this affair and look for someone who loves you enough to spend the rest of his life with you.

Love Guru answers, Well, maybe you need to gradually introduce your wife to the kind of sex you enjoy. Tell her to keep an open mind, take things slowly and who knows, she may come to enjoy it more than you do. You need to remain faithful to her and you know what you're doing is underhanded and deceitful.

LOveme asked, I am in love with one of my girlfrend she dosesnt knows that Now she is marrying to my friend. she is insisting to come for wedding. what should i do?

Love Guru answers, You should have opened your mouth and told her how you felt before she decided to marry your friend. Now the best thing is to be happy for them and let it go if you don't want to ruin your relationship with either of them. I know it may hurt, but I think you should go to the wedding, wish them and then leave right away if you find it too hard. If you don't go, they may suspect something is up.

sk asked, hi im gay and married my wife knows im gay..i have tried having sex with her but failed....i also suffer from clinical depression...want to remain happy..wife taunts and cant divorce bcos we have akid..pls guide

Love Guru answers, There is nothing like 'can't divorce because we have a kid'. You think it'll be healthy for your child to live with two parents who fight and taunt each other continuously and don't love each other? It's better to file for divorce. It's your fault for giving in to pressure and getting married when you knew you were gay in the first place. You need to apologise to your wife, sit her down and discuss in a mature manner hoe to separate amicably, so your child isn't affected.

Vishal asked, Hey Mr Vishal, I am in love with a woman who recently got divorced but she has been seperated with her husband for last 2 years..I had been pursuing her for last 2years..and there was a time when she totally trusted me. I did everything for her what anybody could have done but the things went wrong whenever she used to go in her space and time and I used to call her 15-20 times...and now the relationship is one way that is only from my side....Can please advise

Love Guru answers, Maybe she doesn't want to rush into another relationship after a divorce. You need to talk to her properly and figure out whether she is interested in you or sees you only as a friend. If it's the latter, you're wasting your time.

sweety asked, hi.i m 26 yrs old in a relationship with a guy i met thru mutual friend.met him 3 times..now he avoids me nd is not givin me any reason.wat shud i do..and he used to talk 2 me for hours @ large now he doesnt even call me..

Love Guru answers, Are you in a relationship after only 3 dates? That was rushing things in the first place. You need to talk to him and tell him that you're fine with calling things off, but you need to know what he didn't like about you. At least he should be honest with you so that you can keep it in mind when you get into another relationship and pursue things accordingly.

WannaBeFinanciallyFree asked, I am 27 years old but I still didn't find the urge for marriage. I jus don't know what marriage means and I am not yet excited about that but my parents are insisting for a marriage after one year. Please can you help me out in suggesting some solution to me

Love Guru answers, If you're not ready for marriage, don't let your parents pressure you into it. Read my answer to sk's question -- he's gay, got married, most likely under pressure and now doesn't want to leave his wife for the sake of his child. I'm not saying you're gay, but the thing is, marriage under pressure is always the wrong choice.

deeplyconfused asked, Hello Love Guru, I have been in a relation for nearly 9 yrs now. All these years, i cudnt quite understand my GF completely. V fight more than v love each other. Love still exists between us which v can feel eye 2 eye. The problem is she doesnt want to continue as she feels v do not match up mentally. I have been more of the possesive kinds. I need 2 xplain her that things can work out? Your help is highly appreciated? How do i explain her?

Love Guru answers, You can explain for hours and days, but the only thing that will make a real difference is a change in your attitude. The more possessive you are, the more she'll move away from you. So either grow up and accept her male friends like a man, or then listen to her and end things. Because you cannot programme someone else to live their life the way you want them to.

Love Guru answers, Stop overanalysing things she says so much! Of course it must be hard for her moving away from her parents and hometown after marriage and you should not only understand that, but be supportive of her feelings. It has nothing to do with her love for you. It has to do with her fondness for her home and family.

prerna asked, hi my bf left me 2 mths back bt nt completely nw hw wants to com back desperately,i luv him a lot & he also loves me a lot, he had som valid reason ,in meantime i met a frnd thru onlin & i lik him as a frnd,wht shud i do, shud i go back to my bf or continue wid this new frnd.pls help me

Love Guru answers, What was this valid reason? And by not leaving you completely, you mean he kept you dangling till he made up his mind whether to get back with you or not.

GuruGhantal asked, Hello lg, as i asked you last time my friend tried to get contact with the girl net to his office, She is really interested in him, but there is one issue, one of her friend is also interested in my friend, it looks like the friend of her is creating troubles for them, what should my friend do?

Love Guru answers, He should tell her that her friend is also interested in him and may create trouble. If they stick together and clarify things with each other, there's not much that friend of hers can do.

suresh62 asked, I met a woman online about three years ago. She is married. We got pretty close and emotionally attached to each other. We used to be on the fone every day. It resulted in a physical relationship in Feb this year. Since about June i find her withdrawing - her calls reduced - no messages for days. I asked her directly - she says she is plain and simply busy and it has nothing to do with me. I care for her deeply and don't want to break away when she is genuinely hurting. But sometimes I feel she is flaking....my feeling is that if she cares enuff for me she can always message or sms me or send me a mail...what is your view Sir

Love Guru answers, Maybe she is feeling guilty about what happened? Maybe her marriage was going through a rough patch then, but she's back with her husband now? Or maybe she just didn't find you as attractive in person? Tell her to stop giving excuses and speak the truth about what's happening in her life. If she still continues to pretend nothing's wrong and ignores you, take the hint and end things.

loverboy asked, hi LG.. i am guilty of sleeping with prostitutes n an unsatisfied married woman.. i am in love with a girl but since she stays half a world away, its difficult to control my high sex drive.. I am not going to sleep around anymore but its difficult to control. Any suggestions.

Love Guru answers, You can relieve your sexual tensions solo, you know -- you don't have to go out and sleep with another woman.

Rahim asked, I Loves a girl who loves my friend and my friend also love her. But i know my friend may be he is in real love but most of the he had Gf just for the bed relationship. Should i live them two or should interfere a little bit. The girl also know about him

Love Guru answers, If he's your friend, you should know better than anybody whether he really likes this girl or is just using her. Don't interfere or it will ruin both relationships. Wait and watch for awhile -- if he is in it only for sex, he'll tire of her sooner or later. You have to have more that that to keep a real relationship going.

Love Guru says, That's all for today, folks! Catch you next week, same time, same place! Till then, take care and all the best!